Tuesday, 13 January 2009

Freedom from Depression and Unhappiness


What is Depression?

“Depression is an illusion caused by a lack of reality!”

You can’t be depressed when you have a strong connection with reality. Why do I say that? I say that because Reality is the real ‘I’ and the real ‘I’ is who you really are. Look at the word reality and you will see the words ‘real’ and ‘I’ in there. The real ‘I’ is never depressed, never unhappy, never problematic. People who are depressed have lost their connection with reality, lost their connection with the real ‘I’ within themselves, which is hidden just below their conditioned and therefore problematic ‘selves’.

Depression is life’s way of letting you know that you have lost that connection in a big way, and if you are depressed then life is telling you that NOW is the time to do something about it, that it is time to re-connect with reality. Reconnection with your greater reality-truth-integrity is the solution to the depressed condition.

Now the term ‘real I’ implies its opposite polarity, that aspect of yourself which is ‘unreal’ the ‘false I’. The false I is everything you presently ‘think’ you are but are not. Anyone who suffers from the symptoms of depression, fear, doubt, worry or any forms of psychological and emotional pain, misery, suffering and unhappiness has become lost in the ‘false I’, the conditioned self.

Most people spend some time, on a daily basis, centred in their ‘reality’ but much of their time is also spent in aimless or problematic thinking and consequently in emotional negativity and reactivity. There is a balance of sorts. Each of us experiences this balancing act where sometimes we are happy, relaxed and at ease because we have a strong connection with our reality, with the real ‘I’ but at other times we lose our connection with reality and we open ourselves to unhappiness, to fear, doubt, worry and depression. The depressed individual is out of balance, in extreme cases they can spend most of their time lost in the negativity of discursive and problematic thinking.

How does a depressed individual reconnect with reality? The original meaning of the word religion (re-ligio) was just that; the reconnection of man with reality. This original meaning and knowledge has all but been lost to the masses who have been hoodwinked into ‘believing’ something quite different. In the past men (and women) who did not have a strong enough connection to their own reality have taught mankind that religion is something separate and apart from themselves, something to be believed in, rather than their own living reality. But to experience reality is to have the direct experience of the real ‘I’. Direct experience of the real ‘I’ is the end of belief and the beginning of direct knowledge. It has been said that in this pristine state there is no depression, nothing to be unhappy about and life is lived free of fear, doubt and worry.

Speaking as a man who has, in the past, experienced depression to the point of strong suicidal thoughts and feelings I can assure you that I am writing this from a place of honesty and truth. I no longer have those tendencies and I am no longer depressed because I am now much more ‘real’ than I used to be.

So what am I saying? I’m saying that in my experience depression is an illusion, which means that it isn’t real, but that ‘problematic thinking’ makes us ‘think’ that it is. The question I’m now asking you is, “What happens to the mind that does NOT suffer from discursive and/or problematic thinking?” Do you ‘think’ it vegetates? Or is it at ‘Peace?’ If it is at ‘Peace’, and my experience is exactly that, then why is it at peace? In my experience it is at peace because the thinking mind has reached a point of ‘stillness’ where there is no ‘discursive’ or aimless and unwanted thinking taking place. And yet the mind is still capable of being brightly lit (illumined), fully alert and intelligently present. It certainly does not vegetate. On the contrary it sees things as they are, with clarity of perception, rather than through a filter of old worn out attitudes, beliefs and dimly lit opinions.

If you are in a depressed condition then my only advice to you would be to begin the process of reconnecting with your reality, with your real ‘I’, which is the natural state of being, one that is free of psychological and emotional pain, misery, suffering and unhappiness. Not many are willing to go through this process because it is not an easy thing to undertake and see through to its conclusion (it’s far easier to take Prozac, sit back and complain) but the rewards of going through this process of reconnecting fully with a deeper reality far outweigh the difficulties involved.

There are many methods available to those individuals who are looking to free themselves of depression, fear, doubt, worry or any other forms of psychological and emotional pain, misery, suffering and/or unhappiness. I wholeheartedly recommend the following:

  •        Meditation; although there are many forms of meditation, and some are not true meditation at all, most are very helpful.
  •       Yoga. I practiced different forms of yoga for many years.
  •       Tai Chi and Qi Gong. All these eastern forms can be very beneficial. I found they helped me to get my body moving gently when I felt too depressed to get going physically.
  •        Running; The Zen of going out for a run and just resting ones attention/focus on the rhythm and flow of physical movement.
  •         Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). A method that helps to unblock psychological and emotional energy from the past so that you can be ‘fresh and new’ in the present. It is highly effective, I have had great personal results using this method and I am a qualified practitioner.

 

If I could recommend only one method/technique capable of lifting someone out of depression then EFT would be it, but I would couple it to a form of meditation that aims to bring the ‘attention’ of the individual into a state of present moment awareness.

The aim of all these techniques is to bring your attention into the present moment. These varied methods achieve that end by bringing your attention into your physical body and then deeper into the mind and psyche to a point of pure and clear perception where all discursive and unnecessary thought and emotional unhappiness ends.

Where there is no aimless or problematic thinking there is no emotional unhappiness and that is the end of depression. Getting to that point is the difficult part, it takes a burning desire to break free from the stranglehold that depression and/or unhappiness has over you. You have to want to do it because you’ve reached a point where enough is enough. It would be unfair to say that only the strong willed can survive the process because EFT (for example) has helped many people who are clinically depressed. I use this technique every day, anyone can use it, it beats opening another bottle of beer or wine and it is a great way to get off prescribed drugs.

And Finally . . .

               An alcoholic said to the Master:

                "What would spirituality give me"?

                   "Nonalcoholic intoxication", was the answer.

 

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Thursday, 18 December 2008

How Come?


I have A Question for you:

"Loving people live in a loving world.
Hostile people live in a hostile world.
Same world.
How come?"

Dr. Wayne Dyer


Here is the answer:

"Life has a bright side and a dark side,
For the world of relativity is composed of light and shadows.

If you permit your thoughts to dwell on evil,
You yourself will become ugly.

Look only for the good in everything,
That you absorb the quality of beauty."
Paramahansa Yogananda



"Loving people live in a loving world.
Hostile people live in a hostile world.
Everyone you meet is your mirror."
Ken Keyes JR
Handbook to Higher Consciousness



"Acknowledge the good wherever you see it.
For what you acknowledge you get . . .
and you bring it into existence more."

Barry Long


"We are what we think.
All that we are arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts we make the world.

Speak or act with a 'pure' mind
And happiness will follow you
As your shadow,
Unshakable."
The Dhammapada



To Summarise:


"When you acknowledge love in your life you bring love more into existence.

When you feel aggressive and hostile you are acknowledging aggression and hostility . . .

You therefore bring that aggression and hostility into existence with you.

You are what you think you are. You are also what you feel you are.

All that you are arises with your thoughts and emotions.

The world you live in, be it hostile or loving, is simply a reflection of what you are thinking and feeling. The people you encounter in your life, and the circumstances you experience in your life, are simply a mirror of what you think and feel about life.

Only when you speak or act with a
'pure' mind , which is a peaceful and tranquil mind that acknowledges the good wherever it sees it, will you experience a loving world."

To finish off I would just like to share this little story with you . . .

Long ago in a small, far away village, there was a place known as
the House of 1000 Mirrors. A small, happy little dog learned of
this place and decided to visit. When he arrived, he bounced
happily up the stairs to the doorway of the house.

He looked through the doorway with his ears lifted high and his
tail wagging as fast as it could. To his great surprise, he found
himself staring at 1000 other happy little dogs with their tails
wagging just as fast as his.

He smiled a great smile, and was answered with 1000 great smiles
just as warm and friendly. As he left the house, he thought to
himself, "This is a wonderful place. I will come back and visit it
often."

In this same village, another little dog, who was not quite as
happy as the first one, decided to visit the house.

He slowly climbed the stairs and hung his head low as he looked
into the door.

When he saw the 1000 unfriendly looking dogs staring back at him,
he growled at them and was horrified to see 1000 little dogs
growling back at him. As he left, he thought to himself, "That is a
horrible place, and I will never go back there again."

All the faces in the world are mirrors. What kind of reflections do
you see in the faces of the people you meet?

Doug McMillan
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Monday, 8 December 2008

Smile, Life is Good!


If life is getting you down and you are finding it difficult to find a good reason to smile then you need to watch this video. Why? Because life is good . . unless you choose to acknowledge that it isn't good and you therefore choose to be unhappy . . either way you choose. Don't kid yourself that you don't choose to be happy or unhappy. You can't take responsibility for feeling happy when things are going well in your life and then fail to take responsibility for the bad times in your life . . . . the whole can of worms is your responsibility! Get real!!

Get real? Yes, get real . . which means you need to reconnect with a greater reality, truth and integrity than your petty, sorry, unhappy little personality that 'chooses' to be happy one moment and unhappy the next . . and thinks it has the right to inflict its sorry little life on those around it! Basically it needs to wake up, grow up and mature beyond its ignorance . . . .

. . . why the hell would anyone want to keep the company of a negative individual who is controlled by their moaning and whining personality?

This is a 'self-knowledge' blog. The whole point of Self-knowledge is for you, dear reader, to become aware of all your false conditioning. And where does all your false conditioning hide? Within your personality. It hides there as a bundle of unhappy conditioned ignorance. Your task is to become aware of all that is false within you and then separate from it. Psychological and emotional pain, misery, suffering and unhappiness are all aspects of a defective personality. Sooner or later you are going to have to learn how to go through the process of separating out the false (defective personality) from the real and true (Character/Being) within yourself. It is what life is all about . . .

. . . what has that got to do with this video? Do us both a favor, watch it and let me know!!


Saturday, 25 October 2008

Part Two: The Normal Condition of Living in the World.


There are two aspects to the normal condition of living in the world.

First we have the external condition of the planet, the world that man has created for himself and built on the surface of the earth. The earth and the world are not one and the same. I would put it this way. The earth came first and man has since built his world on the surface of the earth. Man has created a superstructure of cities and networks for transportation and communication purposes. We call this world our civilization, it is the basis for our social structure, and it includes the worlds of politics, commerce, science and organized religion etc.

When the earth was first “born” it was free from mans world, but since man arrived on the scene things have changed. The world that man has built on the surface of the earth is slowly suffocating the planet, but please note, if man were no longer on the planet then the earth would return to its original state.

This is how I perceive it.

“The natural state of the earth has been conditioned by mans world.”


“The Normal Condition of Living in the World” is the cause of all problems on earth. If you could remove the condition from the earth there would be no more problems and the earth would be free. In order that the earth can be free from all problems you have to take the first step by removing problematic living from your own life. This book will show you the way to do that.

Now let us take a look at the second aspect of the normal condition of living in the world. There is a well known saying that is most apt here, “As within so without.”

The reason that man has created a world of conditioning on the surface of the earth is because he has a world of conditioning within himself.

By within himself I mean within his mind/psyche. Put more accurately I mean within your mind/psyche.

Your mind has become conditioned. Its present condition is problematic, it thinks problematically. It perceives events and circumstances as difficulties to be overcome through effort and trying, and the result for you is a life of worries, problems and unhappiness, which you attempt to overcome through personal effort and trying.

I’m not suggesting that you are worried all the time or that you see every event in your life as a problem. Nor am I suggesting that you are unhappy all the time. I am pointing out that the normal condition that you are experiencing on a day to day, week to week or month to month basis is one which swings from periods where you are worried to periods where you are free from worry. There are times in your life when you see every event and circumstance in your life as being problematic and there are other times when you are at peace with yourself and therefore you feel in control and better able to manage your life adequately. The fact is that there are times in your life when you are desperately unhappy with your circumstances and times when you feel blissfully happy. Sometimes things are on the up and at other times they are down . . . why is this? It is because you have been conditioned to live your life in this way and it is totally unnatural.

My task now is to make you aware of this conditioning, and show you how it creates unhappiness within your mind before then manifesting as unhappiness and problematic living here in your external life.


The normal condition within the mind consists of the following:

1. The Aimless, willful and problematic thinking that runs incessantly through your mind and the minds of everyone else around you.

2. The attitudes, beliefs and opinions you have acquired since birth.

3. Interpreting, Judging, Analyzing and labeling everything you perceive through the senses.

4. Attachment to concepts, notions, ideas and ideals of the mind.

5. Attachment to people, to places, objects and physical things in the world.

6. Psychological and emotional pain, misery and unhappiness or suffering.


In my next Post I will give you some typical examples of your conditioning beginning with thinking and I'll introduce you to a basic exercise in self-awareness. I'll do this only because it will help you to be more “present” as you read through this material and it will automatically expand an awareness of your body and senses here in existence . . bringing your attention into the eternal Now moment.



"The past is dead,
The future is imaginary,

Happiness can only be
in the Eternal Now Moment."


Ken Keyes, JR Handbook to Higher Consciousness
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Friday, 10 October 2008

The Golden Thread of Truth


There is a Golden Thread of Truth that is central to all life but very few people of the earth have had the direct experience of this truth. Consequently we live in a man made world full of problems and suffering where the nearest most people get to the truth of what life is all about is by believing or not believing in some distant God that may or may not be real. The alternative appears to be to have faith in science and accept that there is nothing beyond your physical existence. This series of posts will take you step by step through the maze of your psyche and reveal to you the truth of life on earth. Your only responsibility is to have enough faith in your own life to participate fully, so fasten your seat belts because you are about to find out the answer to that age old question . . .
 What is THE TRUTH OF LIFE ON EARTH?

 
The truth is that everyone on the planet is conditioned. This condition in turn creates “dis-ease.” You, the reader of these words right now, are suffering from a condition and as a result you are not at ease. Now obviously I’m not speaking of a physical disease here, I’m talking about a psychological and emotional disorder that effects everyone on the planet.

Your CONDITION is so NORMAL that you wouldn’t think that it was a problem. It is “the normal condition of living in the world” and everyone on the planet, apart from a few enlightened individuals, is controlled by this condition including those who think this doesn’t apply to them!

This condition is insidious, being both subtle and treacherous in its activities, to such an extent that the great majority of the people on planet earth are totally unaware of its existence and therefore it appears to be both normal and natural.

It is a fact that this conditioning process is something we all go through and have the experience of. We can identify it in our own experience, as you will soon discover. It is normal and it was meant to happen to each of us, but there are several important questions we have to receive answers to before we can continue our exploration of the truth of life on earth:

·       What exactly is this condition that makes each of us ill at ease?

·       How did we become conditioned?

·       Is there any purpose to the existence of our conditioning and if so what?

·       Can we do anything to remove it if we choose to?

 

Let’s begin with our first question by asking "just what is a condition and how does it create this dis-ease within each of us?" A condition is something that is added to you. Anything that is added to you may be perceived to be normal, and you might even “think” it is natural, take unhappiness and problematic living as examples. Most people would consider unhappiness and having problems to solve as being quite natural in the great scheme of things. I will endeavor to show you why, although it is quite normal, it is not natural.

At this juncture I would just like to point out that in my experience the natural state of life on earth, and therefore your own life, is what is left behind when you remove the normal condition and unhappiness coupled to problematic living are aspects of that condition.

In following postings I will demonstrate all of your conditioning to you. You will be able to identify it in your own experience, proving that this is not theory or belief, it is demonstrably and inescapably real. In other words, after you read these posts, you will not be able to pretend that this is not real and deceive yourself that you are not conditioned.

Right now your task is to become aware of the normal conditioning that resides within yourself, which consists of unhappiness and problematic living, and through expanding your awareness of its presence, begin the process of removing it, thus returning to the natural state. The natural state you are returning to equates to freedom from unhappiness and problematic living: liberation.

Before you can remove your normal, but false conditioning, you must first be able to identify it in your own experience.  I am going to reveal to you, in detail, exactly what this condition consists of and also what “the natural state of life on earth” is. Then I’ll show you how you can work your way back through your conditioning and return to YOUR natural state. I’m going to do all of this within you as you work your way through this manual. In other words the truth will be revealed within you and as your own direct experience. This will take some time, it could be weeks, months or years depending on your individual life experience and your present point of self-realization.

You may need to go over this material many times before the full impact of what I’m saying breaks through the layers of conditioning within YOUR psyche/mind. The second time you read this material you will be amazed at just how much more you take in as you begin to get used to its particular language and the truth within you starts to resonate with what you are reading.

I will also guide you in the direction of other teachers whose work will continue what you’ve started here, confirming that you are heading in the correct direction, and continually expanding your self-knowledge along the way.

Please note that this is a D.I.Y. course. You have to do the work yourself. My task is to guide you along the way.

 

In my next post we will explore . . . . .

"The Normal Condition of Living in the World" . .


 . . . and remember:

"We are what we think
All that we are
  arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts we make the world.

Speak or act with a pure mind
  and happiness will follow you
     as your shadow,
          unshakable."

The Dhammapada
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Friday, 3 October 2008

Emotional Freedom Techniques . . How Good Are They?

"I would say without hesitation that EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is the single most useful thing I have learned in my life - EVER!"

Shahzadi Thomas

To discover just what EFT can do for you visit this LINK . . Now!

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Thursday, 2 October 2008

Want to know a great secret?


"There is a great secret that beings throughout time have announced, the secret of an extraordinary treasure, the treasure of the nectar of eternal life. It is the nectar of pure beingness, recognizing itself as consciousness and overflowing in the love of that recognition.

If you imagine yourself to be located in a body, then you will move that body from place to place, searching for this treasure of nectar. But, if you will stop all searching right now and tell the truth to yourself, you will know what is known in the core of your bones. You will know what these great beings knew and attempted to describe. You will know it with no image of it, no concept of it, no thought of it. You will know it as that which has eternally been here. And you will know it as yourself."
Welcome

http://www.gangaji.org/


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